Abortion

So you think abortion is murder and you won't budge one inch from that position. Sure. No-one is saying you may not think that way or that you shouldn't.

I am saying it's irrelevant.

People who consider abortion don't care about your opinions. They don't care about the information you offer, because it's irrelevant to them. To be able to influence others, you need to consider what is important to THEM, not what is important to YOU.

So, if you REALLY care, then you will start working to obliterate THE REASONS.

That abortion is legal isn't one of the reasons, because people will have an illegal abortion. I know you think abortion is abortion, but it really isn't. You see, when an abortion is done by professionals who have to follow certain procedures and standards, it's more safe to the mother. Also, it's more safe for her productive system. The "baby" will die in any case, but you might force people to kill the mother as well and ALL HER FUTURE BABIES.
Yes, I know, you don't care.
You should.
Because the goal should be to stop abortions, not to force people to do as you want them to do just because you want them to do it.

1) pregnancy in itself has negative physical, psychological, economical and social consequences.
 

If pregnancy would be just carrying the child for nine months, giving birth and moving on as if nothing happened, your suggestion that "just bear the child and give it to someone else to foster" would work. But it isn't. You really have no right to force anyone go through a pregnancy just because you have an opinion.

the effects of pregnancy
Unintended Pregnancy and Its Adverse Social and Economic Consequences on Health System 

"Unintended pregnancy is also considered as a high-risk pregnancy associated with high rates of negative consequences for mother, partner and the baby. These groups of women are more exposed to suicide and depression rate, poor nutrition during gestation, mental health issues, unstable family relationships, experiencing physical and psychological violence, risk of miscarriage and having low birth weight infants and delayed onset of prenatal care.

Statistics show that when compared to wanted ones, unwanted children are exposed to greater risk factors, so that they more likely experience negative psychological and physical health issues and dropout of high school and tend to show delinquent behavior during adolescence. The participants of a research in Australia reported higher level of depression, anxiety and delinquency than compared with those in wanted children group thus child smoking were self-reported at 14-year (10).

According to several micro-level studies, a child’s overall health has an impact on his or her ability to achieve academic success. Existing studies at the macro level suggest population health has a significant effect on a nation’s economic performance and growth. Overall, the evidence suggests that unintended pregnancy is one of the most critical challenges facing the public health system and imposes significant financial and social costs on society. Long-term studies confirm that reducing unintended pregnancy incidences would increase labor force participation rates, improve academic achievement, have better economic efficiency, increase the level of health and reduce in crime rates among vulnerable groups. Thus in this paper we focus on the socio-economic impacts of unwanted pregnancy from the viewpoint of health system."

Now, it's not easy to change this.

Free healthcare to all pregnant women should be self-evident.

It would be good if all pregnant women were offered free meals if they can't give them to themselves

It would be nice if there was someone to help them with their lives, as things are harder to do when one is pregnant

It should be illegal to refuse to hire someone who is pregnant or fire someone who is pregnant because of the pregnancy. It should be illegal to give any negative consequences to pregnant women or women with small children in their workplace. A woman shouldn't be punished in her work life for getting pregnant, because this will cause her not wanting to get pregnant, and it makes it easier for her to choose to abort the pregnancy, to avoid the negative consequences. Remove the threat of economical punishment, remove the threat of abortion.

Remove the stigmata of single pregnant women. If you treat them as whores, you are making others want to avoid that, and when they get pregnant, they will abort the pregnancy and not let anyone ever know.

2) Inability to support or care for child 

Of course, the easy answer is to tell people that there's a lot of people in the world who would love to take care of the child - but as said, being pregnant isn't without consequences. Sponsor pregnant women so that the negative consequences of pregnancy and childbirth are minimized.

3) Birth control failure

Teach people to use contraceptives and make them free for all. A condom correctly used is practically 100% secure. That it's not 100% is because people have used a too old condom - or not used it correctly.
Teaching children how to use contraceptive doesn't make them more eager to have sex. It makes them less likely to get pregnant and that means fewer abortions. They will have sex any way.

4) To prevent the birth of a child with birth defects or severe medical problems.

 

So... how are you going to deal with this? God Godself has made the presumptive baby a very big problem, cause of difficulties, will probably abort the pregnancy through miscarriage, the likelihood of the baby being born dead or dying very soon after birth - there is nothing you can do to change any of this. If the pregnancy is aborted, the woman can get pregnant again sooner and try for a healthy child. How are you going to compensate for that?
Now, some birth defects and medical problems are predictable and avoidable. Some are caused by drug use, alcohol use, smoking. You know yourself that telling others they may not do things because you think they shouldn't be done is useless. You know it won't stop you from doing what you do. So - you need to give people functional alternatives and teach them to use them.

5) Pregnancy resulting from rape or incest.

Work to stop rape. Incest and child molestation is practically the same thing. Make the consequences harder for the criminal. Don't punish the victim by forcing her go through pregnancy.

6) Physical or mental conditions that endanger the woman's health 

7) relationship problems /unwillingness to be a single mother

Make it easier to be a single mother and you reduce the amount of abortions


Make men more responsible - work to make the parenthood 50/50 responsibility - make fathers take as much leave from work to care for sick children as mothers (right now it's 90% on mothers) and see that a parent won't get negative consequences in his/her career because of being a responsible parent.

One part of this is that the father should have a say in abortion decision IF THE CONCEPTION WAS NOT A RESULT OF A CRIME. A rapist has lost all his rights and paternal privileges, and if I got what I wanted he'd lose more than that. I really think a father should have the right to become a father if he wants to, just as the mother has the right to become a mother even if the father doesn't want to. But in that case the parent who would have aborted the pregnancy shouldn't have any obligations or consequences of it. The unwilling father/mother shouldn't be forced to pay alimony. The child should be enough. Now, because pregnancy and child-birth aren't without consequences, I think the father should pay the unwilling mother compensation for her sacrifice, but he should have the right to become a father.

Why women choose abortion